Especially when we are very young, we pick up limiting beliefs, fears or habits in various ways, through events that happened or were witnessed by us. We have the saying “kids are like sponges”; this not only refers to learning but also goes for emotions and beliefs, how people react etc. All these events form what we believe about life (danger, pleasure, how we view ourselves etc.) These are unconsciously stored in our bodies. They can limit or stop us from the things we want to do, feel and how we show up in life. There are now a good number of scientific studies showing that our emotions and thoughts play an important part in our daily life.
Gently and at your pace, we work our way back to the original creation of the belief, fear or habit. We do not change the past but with tapping, we can change the way you feel about what happened.
What does an EFT session typically look like and how can it help me?
We start by focusing on what is bothering you, what you would like to change and how you would like to feel. Next, we hone in on where, if anywhere in your body, are you feel this? We give this a score from 1 to 10, so we can track your progress. Focusing on how you are feeling in the truth of this moment, we create a setup statement.
The aim of a setup statement is:
- to state out loud what you like to change, or how you would like to feel
- state out loud your acceptance of what you like to change or feel
We start tapping with 2/3 fingers on various acupressure points on the body stating out loud how you feel and paying attention to what comes up for you. In an EFT session I follow where you take me, it is about YOU, there is no wrong or right. We usually repeat this for a few rounds, take a deep breath, maybe stretch. We will repeat the process typically gaining more clarity on what is really going on for you. Often there are interesting connections being made between how we feel and an event that happened
Engaging the Amygdala
When we tap, we are engaging the amygdala (stress centre of the brain), the hippocampus (memory centre) and the limbic system (emotional centre). Typically after tapping, people feel more removed from the event and do not get emotionally triggered like before. Change can come very fast with EFT. Especially if we can get specific on the feelings and be honest. There is nothing to lose and you cannot get it wrong. The whole EFT session is about you, my job is to gently guide you to discover what is really going on for you at YOUR pace. In my experience, sessions often flow, I trust that whatever comes up in each session is what you are ready to work on and let go off, easily and effortlessly.
Understanding and dealing with our challenges is very empowering. The gains are many. You become aware of the story are you telling yourself and then have the power to change the story. What would you like your story to be?